Is it the “accidental mommy” in me or is it something parents, generation after generation, deal with regardless?
I am referring to kids saying things around other kids (and especially the other kids’ parents) that make you want to turn invisible and disappear. Most of it is harmless, like the frequent use of “butt” or “fart” but some of it turns ugly with talk of guns or other dangerous things.
I know at 5 years old, they don’t understand what they are talking about and they picked it up from some other kid, likely an older kid. We don’t say the things my son has been overheard saying so he has to pick it up from somewhere. But I still feel like I am a horrible parent when my son says these things and other kids start saying them too.
I can feel the eyes of other parents on me.
Staring at me.
Talking about me.
Ok, now I sound paranoid.
But I’m sorry, I do NOT walk around the house chanting “Homer Simpson butt” nor does my husband, yet my son and other children have been heard saying it over and over and over again.
Ok, so “Homer Simpson butt” makes me chuckle a little bit, but I am really bothered by the fact that my kid may have taught some younger kid to say this. And sure,”Homer Simpson butt” is harmless good fun but my concern is where does it stop? What else will he say down the road that I certainly would be upset over hearing my kid say, not to mention the parents of the other children he teaches it to.
I know that kids will always say stuff they shouldn’t, eventually they will learn to filter themselves and do it when adults are not around. But how do I deal with it now? Do I punish? Do I simply correct my kid when I happen to overhear something and rely on other parents to call him out when I am not around? What about the impact other kids have on mine? How do I deal with those children? How do I know other parents have sense enough to know that my kid isn’t the only one saying things like this?
When we make these weird little creatures, we really need to make sure they have manuals attached.