I’ve noticed something.
My kids totally fit the mold of the gender they were born into.
There has been a big trend lately of “gender neutrality” with people trying to blur the distinction between male and female, boy and girl. In an attempt at equality I believe that we are turning people into IT rather than he or she. Personally I find it appalling and sad. The distinct differences between men and women should be cherished and flaunted not discouraged and hidden.
I find it odd that the same people who are claiming “they were born that way” are some of the same proponents for reducing the distinctions between the genders. Gender is the most basic thing that makes you different from the get-go. Right at birth you are identified that way, heck now-a-days gender is often determined not long after conception – because parents want to know.
I think equality should exist despite our differences, not by making us all the same – in all issues where civil rights are concerned.
This did not actually set out to be a lecture on my views about gender neutrality, but the more I thought about how “stereotypical” my kids are, the more angry I got about the recent trend towards removing pronouns in schools and other mainstream attempts at gender neutrality.
Who came up with this crap?
My son is a BOY. I want him to grow up being fearless and tough and strong and a good man who takes care of and protects his family. My daughter is a GIRL. I want her to pretend to be a princess and yearn for prince charming to whisk her away to his castle. Does that mean my son can’t be sensitive? Does it mean he can’t cook and clean and help around the house? Does it mean my daughter can’t play with bugs or play sports or become a professional athlete? Does it mean she won’t be able to take care of herself?
This whole backwards quest at making everyone fit in is propaganda out of a classic novel. You don’t make people fit in by attempting to turn an apple into a banana. You make people fit in by teaching them proper values from a young age. It’s not the children that have a problem. It’s the adults.
And our society is on a collision course with itself. By making everyone the same you don’t add value to humanity – you remove what makes us special and therefore devalue each and every human life.
I’m done on my soap box.
Back to my original inspiration for this post.
Um. My husband does not own a sniper rifle nor does he sit on top of our house aiming it at the neighbors. We don’t watch violent TV shows nor do we play violent video games. Yet my son acts like a crazed hunter set out to take over the world with his sniper rifle. Despite the fact that he doesn’t even have darts in it half the time.
I most certainly don’t wear dresses every day. Heck, I don’t even own an actual dress. Yet my daughter insists on wearing a dress every day. She will cry if I won’t let her. She routinely asks for princess dresses and truly desires to look and act like a princess. I like bermuda shorts and flip-flops.
I realize some girls like to wear cammo pants and play with guns. Some boys want to wear a tutu and become a ballet dancer. Fine. Let them be and do what they want to do.
My point is, don’t try and change what nature intended.
Because THAT is the learned behavior.